Yesterday a new Twitter friend tweeted... 


Which made me think about the time when this happened...



Which made me think that I should try and find the 'How to Live and Work Without Fear' blog that I once wrote, but had inadvertently deleted when I built my new site. Here it is...


How To Live And Work Without Fear

A while back I attended a talk by top sports psychologist Gary Leboff. He gave some no-nonsense observations on human behaviour and practical advice as to how you can stop the amazing/awful rollercoaster that is life, nose-diving into fear and self-loathing, and how you can create new opportunities for yourself. I have broken it down into some bite-sized bullet points that you can apply to work or any other changes that you want to make in your life.

  • Remove the words ‘should’, ‘must’ and ‘ought to’ from your vocabulary. Focus on what you are going to achieve. 
  • It’s very important to recognise what you’re not going to. Don’t waste your time trying to control things that you can’t control or with frustrated dreams. (Let go!)
  • Get out of your own way.  Don’t be tied to having to earn a certain amount or being in a certain position in X number of years. 
  • Be open and curious - adopt the mantra of the explorer. Meet people who you wouldn’t normally meet.
  • Have a positive attitude towards change and detach yourself from outcomes.
  • Just move forward, don’t be stagnant. You don’t have to know where you’re trying to end up - if you knew it wouldn’t be interesting. 
  • Humans are innately negative – we make up an ending when we don’t know what will happen. Stress is most commonly caused by ‘what if-ing’ or catastrophising over something that is unlikely to happen.
  • Ask yourself why are you so confident it's not going to go well?  Is there an equally plausible explanation, for example, it might go well? Is it just as likely that things will be ok? If not, where’s the evidence?

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